Focus

A word that I have been constantly thinking and contemplating about lately is: Focus. Such an interesting word. A word that by itself doesn't mean too much, but when paired with something it can make all the difference. Which brings me to my life lately and the time old question, what am I focusing on? Well Lately it has been, Am I the Mother I really want to be?

A couple weeks ago I had a really bad day and I realized I needed to figure something out or I was going to snap. What it came down to was what am I focusing on? It started with my typical list. Well, I have been too worried about keeping the house clean and not keeping the feeling in our home a place you want to be. I am focusing on the things that "need" to get done rather than the people doing the tasks.  On and on my mental list went until really it came to a head when this inspired question popped into my head. "Do you even like being a Mother?" 

I love the old saying fake it until you make it, because I feel like it is so true. I have tried it in so many things and it really works so why not with Motherhood?  I started putting it to the test. What would I be doing if I absolutely loved everything about being a Mother? I would be constantly reading about Motherhood. I would be finding out different ways to improve and become the Mother I want to be.  I would be discussing it with other moms and putting into practice the things I learned. So in my search I found this wesite

 

 

It was the answer to many prayers. Don't you just love the title? Deliberate Mothers. Am I a Deliberate Mother? Go check it out. If this was ever a place where you could find answers to questions or if you just need to be uplifted to keep on going, this is the place to go. 

 

One article I read talked about getting in the picture and challenged Mothers to get in the pictures with your kids and to document the everyday.   I felt like if I was going to be working on becoming a deliberate mother than this must be my homework. Here is my first assignment.

 

 

It only took a few tries to get it right, but it was well worth it. There is something about looking at a memory, you can still feel how you felt. I love that decorating sugar cookies became all about being present and focused on the moment. 

In this journey I have embarked on to become better I have decided that documenting our moments and life is my mental facet I will be working on.   (seriously listen to this podcast taking care of the WHOLE Mom. It has helped me to become more focused) Plus it will make my mom super happy that I will be posting more! Love you mom. 

 

When I was in college there came a point when I asked myself what I really wanted to be when I "grew up" and what major would help me get there. Well I knew I wanted to be a mother so I immersed myself in the Family and Consumer sciences and learned so much. It is time to immerse myself once again in real life mothering.  I feel the amazing thing about being in a church that focuses so much on families is we have the opportunity to surround ourselves with amazing examples of motherhood. Yet do we take advantage of the help and support we could get and give?  I would love if anyone out there would like to discuss motherhood or join a learning circle with me. I love you all!